Are you a human-being or a human-doing?

You have been created as a human-being, not a human-doing. Your worth is based on everything you are, not on everything you do.

 

It’s not a new year anymore

It’s so easy to get caught up in the busy rush of everyday life, isn’t it? During the early part of the year, we tend to dive straight into achieving new goals and zoom along, sometimes at a whirlwind pace.

It’s March now… maybe it’s time to slow down a little and admire the sunflower that opened up just for you in your garden.

Achieving so much is great for the ‘doing’ part of our ego – the part that wants to achieve and feel good for it, the part that wants to please others and be commended.

But while you’re busy constantly doing, what’s happening to the ‘being’ part of yourself? Are you giving it any attention?

 

What am I talking about?

What do I mean by ‘doing’ and ‘being’? We live in such a go-go-go world that we’re always focussed on what’s next on our list of things to do. This is what I refer to as our ‘doing self’. It is purely task orientated.

Our ‘being self’ isn’t focussed on all the doing. ‘Being’ is about resting, loving life, recognising who you are and what you’re like and being okay with that. It is people focussed, not task oriented.

 

Stop

I’ve long battled with ‘doing’ and ‘being’. Having lived many years with a chronic illness, I’ve had to face the challenge of not physically achieving as much as my brain wants me to. Life lessons have impressed upon me that ‘being’ is far more enriching than ‘doing’.

If you’re anything like me, it’s hard to stop doing and just be, most of the time. You might get bored instantly or get fidgety. It takes practice to master, but once you have, your happiness will increase exponentially.

‘Being’ fits in with ideas about mindfulness. I’ll talk about this topic more in future weeks. Meanwhile, I encourage you to find some time to just sit and think. Maybe put some classical music on, maybe enjoy the sound of silence. Perhaps do it at the beach, or maybe on your couch. Maybe meditate (watching your thoughts drift by). You don’t have to do this practice for a long time, to start with.

I truly believe that being you is more important than being busy. Slow down a little, unique soul, you’ve been working hard on all your doing.

 

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HUH?!

One thing about me is that I don’t look, or act, like the kind of person who is into weird stuff. If anything, I’d say it’s obvious I’m a straight (and fairly ordinary) woman.

When I say weird stuff, I mean it as ‘stuff that doesn’t seem normal to me’; I’m not making a judgement (just in case you’re into some weird stuff).

Countless things that have happened in my life that have absolutely puzzled me. I tell my friends and family and they can’t believe it. They’re like, ‘that stuff actually happens?’

Whenever I get a strange offer or a left-of-field drama in my life, I know that for some reason, this happens to me and not many other people. But I still don’t know why.

In the last four years I’ve had two invitations to be the third person in a ‘threesome’. I’ve also been asked to massage nudists, nude (when I was a beauty therapist). I know of two men whom, if I’d gone along with it, would have had a physical affair with me. This is only a small sample of weird stuff that’s happened to me.

Every time something weird like this pops up, I’m shocked. Maybe that means I’m a prude, but I don’t think so.

I’m sure I don’t go around with a sign on my head saying ‘easy prey’. I’m usually very upfront and dogmatic about my moral standards.

Maybe the naivety that seems embedded in my personality is a magnet for weird things. Or maybe it’s just a random thing.

 

Can you help me feel less weird? Tell me your own strange story!

 

 

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ON THE ROAD

I’m excited and embarrassed to confess that next week, my husband and I are renting a deluxe motorhome and taking our four-year-old down to Esperance (South of Western Australia) for six nights.

Excited, because we’ve never had a family holiday, never camped in a motor home and never ventured further south than Albany. So it’ll be an adventure. I can’t wait to create fun memories with my favourite boys.

Embarrassed, because it seems like a very Grey Nomad type of thing to do! We’re usually known for our ‘tenting’ style of holiday.

My husband and I have always talked about doing a year-long trip around Australia, when our son is older. I guess this holiday could be a small foretaste of what that might be like.

After this trip, I’m guessing it’ll be hard to lower the camping standards to tenting again. And I’m guessing I’ll want to buy a motorhome.

Do you enjoy road tripping around Oz? Have you been on a long journey with a young child before?

Please share any camping stories you have, I’d love to hear them :o).

 

 

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